A Stalker??

Damiatrix Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 589

Superman has always been in serious love with Lois Lane...it's a hallmark of the Superman story. Many times, he has spied on or stalked her, and I was wondering whether you all happened to understand his behavior or does it constitute some flaw in his character? Everyone knows that he is a good person...he has proven it over and over again. So, do you all think that he is some twisted person based on his "stalking" tendencies toward Lois?? (BTW--Brandon Routh is an absolute cootie patootie RAWRRR)~~Maia

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He was not twisted. While he did love her, he knew he could not protect her all the time and that his enemies would hurt her to get at him. If his interest in her was exposed, she would have been a danger equal to kryptonite.

He loved her enough to be her protecter and to deny himself in order to keep her safe.

Damiatrix Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 589

Well I guess what I'm asking is whether the epithet "stalker" can truly be used to describe Superman. I can see the terms "savior" "hero" "honorable" "wonder" "romantic" etc being used to describe him--but, despite his behavior, "stalker" just doesn't seem to fit. Are people known by general behavioral traits...or does a "shady" character trait trump all those "acceptable" sides of him in order to make him partly dark? It just shows that even the best of people can have a side that can be used against him.

This is I guess a clash of worlds. In Greece, it wouldn't be uncommon for a man to follow the woman he loves anywhere she went, and it wouldn't be seen as threatening. But, in this day and age, where stalking has become an issue discussed in terms of threat, people see it as unromantic. So, when does a good person, like Superman, cross over from "hero" to "stalker?" And can this kind of "shady" behavior be forgiven based on other sides of a persons personality? Curious issue to me--it makes me think.~~Maia

Alliance Member Joined: 27 Nov 2006 Posts: 29

Hmm very interesting question you have there Maia(Btw hiya & nice to see you still posting here).Wasnt there a 'Marvel comic's' hero actually called 'Summin Stalker' or 'Stalker' ?
If there was then that would be quite the reverse of your 'Superman'hero becoming a stalker as a'Stalker' becomes a hero !
I could be completely wrong tho but i seem to have a very vague memory of there being a hero called 'Stalker' correct me if im wrong anybody.
As far as stalking goes tho isn't that a natural human trait ? perhaps linked to being inquisitive..or perhaps ppl stalk out of fear of being rejected so they cant actually meet face to face with somebody etc.
I bet there are many perceptions of stalking...

Damiatrix Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 589

LOL--why are people avoiding answering my questions??~~Maia

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Within the accepted meaning of the word, he was not a stalker. By definition, the verb "to stalk" implies hunter and prey. He was not watching her in an attempt to get closer or to establish some "relationship" of any kind. He was not trying to influence her in any way towards anything or influence her feelings. His actions by themselves had no goals.
His attention to her was to solely protect someone he loved from harm. Impact on her personal life was limited solely to her personal safety.

Damiatrix Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 589

Now would that remain true in the light of the fact that he looked past her outer clothing to see what was beneath?? Or to hear whether she loved him in the most recent movie?? What about all those little moments?~~Maia

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I have to give this one some thought.

I have watched the movies and read the comics, each displays different "stalking" and actions.

I just watched the superman returns movie - new one - so i feel for Lois right now. One minute, I minute I want to smack her, the next I understand. and i can not comment on why cause it will spoil the movie for ppl. I just love richard and the type of man he is.

So are we talking the new movie or all superman in general?

And if the new movie, can it be called stalking when Lois says will you be around? Is she not encouraging it?

Damiatrix Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 589

AHHH--is it stalking if it's encouraged?? Or is it a matter of taking "deceptive" or secret steps that have not been OK'd by the other person. I.e. in the new movie, would Lois have been alright with Superman stopping by in mid-flight to hear/see what was going going on in the Lane house, to overhear conversations Lois was in the middle of having with her boyfriend, fiance..whatever he was?

I guess this comes down to it...what would constitute as stalking. While my husband and I were watching it on DVD, I asked him "is that stalking" when Superman eavesdropped on Lois' conversation...my husband said "yes"--so I asked, "Does that make him a stalker." My husband again responded in the affirm--but I just can't see Superman as a stalker. It just has a horrible connotation.~~Maia

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Does this not beg the question--- Can good people do bad things for good reasons and should we consider them less worthy if they do?
If the reason is good, does it justify any extremes?
The real crux of the argument is who decides what represents good or bad? Who defines what is accptable? When is it permissible to observe another person without their explicit permission? If I say stay close I like you, am I giving you permission to observe me and my actions at a time I would not be expecting you to be there? Whether we think Lois would have been "OK" with his eavesdropping, does not affect the question.

Where is her presumed privacy?

He may have all the right reasons but if he listens in on a private conversation, if he observes her specific actions without her knowledge and doesn't limit his awareness to those around her then he is stalking albeit for for good reasons. As a society, we tend to accept the end does not justify the means. On this basis, he is wrong. He may love her but he is stalking.